Tuesday, December 11, 2012

Blame...



When you are told something for so long in your life like, you’re not good enough, you’re fat, you’re dumb, you’re easy, you start to believe it. “It” starts to become your identity. When you take things, even when you shouldn’t, that starts to become you as well, like blame or guilt, or shame. 

Have you ever felt like you have done everything you can to the ones you love most, you’ve given up sleep, you’ve changed your plans, you’ve taken the screaming, you’ve given up what you want, you’ve given them a safe place when they needed it most. 

Have you ever had the blame on you when it shouldn’t have been? When people blame you because you will take it, because it is easier than fighting about it. After being blamed so much and then finally trying to stand up for yourself and take the blame off of you but they don’t let you not take the blame. 
 
When things are going great and then you mess things up because you were trying so hard to do the right thing, but that’s not what they wanted, but they didn’t tell you what they wanted, the blame is put on you. When doing the right thing is already hard in the first place and then when you try, things go wrong. 

Why are people so hard to figure out!?! 

Why is blame and guilt such a horrible but easy feeling to feel? Because to be honest I have had blame and guilt on me my whole life, now how do I shake it off, if for me it is easier to just take it and not fight. 

And why is it always the people that we are closest to? The people closest to us have to be the strongest to us, or they wouldn’t be around anymore. 

You tried and they won’t see it, they also won’t fight to really know what is going on because of the lack of communication or the miscommunication. 

So don’t fight for anything but what you were originally fighting for. I won’t give up.