Do you have loved ones that is slowly being destroyed by
something slowly? Cancer, drug addition, depression, Parkinson’s, alcoholism,
HIV, bipolar, PTSD, Alzheimer’s, an eating disorder. It starts to slowly changing
them. Pushing others away, acting stubborn, playing the victim.
What do you do for or with these people? How do you treat
them? Are you strong enough to stand next to them as much as they need you? Is it your job or pleasure to
stand next to them?
Are they calling out for help? Are you slapping their hand
or holding their hand?
Are they impulsive? Are they numb? Are they angry? Have they
turned to a substance/behavior addition? Are they becoming disassociated? Do
they feel powerless? Do they feel guilty? Are they shameful?
There are 5 steps of loss and grief, and one can go through
these when they start to loss themselves. 1. Denial and isolation 2. Anger 3. Bargaining
4. Depression 5. Acceptance.
This is a cycle it takes a long time to get through to the
last step. How long will you hold on to their hand? How long will you walk
along side them?