Hold my hand...

Do you have loved ones that is slowly being destroyed by something slowly? Cancer, drug addition, depression, Parkinson’s, alcoholism, HIV, bipolar, PTSD, Alzheimer’s, an eating disorder. It starts to slowly changing them. Pushing others away, acting stubborn, playing the victim.

What do you do for or with these people? How do you treat them? Are you strong enough to stand next to them as much as they need you? Is it your job or pleasure to stand next to them?

Are they calling out for help? Are you slapping their hand or holding their hand?

Are they impulsive? Are they numb? Are they angry? Have they turned to a substance/behavior addition? Are they becoming disassociated? Do they feel powerless? Do they feel guilty? Are they shameful?

There are 5 steps of loss and grief, and one can go through these when they start to loss themselves. 1. Denial and isolation 2. Anger 3. Bargaining 4. Depression 5. Acceptance.

This is a cycle it takes a long time to get through to the last step. How long will you hold on to their hand? How long will you walk along side them?

Some times life just isn't fair...

Do you ever have those people in your life that just can't take you for who you are. When you are down they want you to be happy, when you are happy they can't handle it and just push you away. I don't understand it. Or when you want to go somewhere, and they don't, then you don't go either.
You feel like you pull them down on days you are down, but when they are down you have to be strong and can't let your life get in the way. They yell at you for almost hurting them, when you get hurt.
You seem to just keep fighting over nothing all the time. The stress from other factors are heavy and you are just tired of everything. Its the same fights, its the same reactions, the friendship is pretty much just there because it is easy and comfortable.

It doesn't seem fair to me.

Who is that people to you, do you really want them in your life, do you need them or want them. If you want them try and new way to show them that this week. What is it going to take for you to know who that person really is to you?